Good boundaries christian dating

22-May-2016 02:09

We’ve camped out on opposite sides of the playing field: kissing dating goodbye, and then wanting it back. Is (insert name of your significant other) right for me? We’ve taken preferences, and claimed that they were “the godly way” to do things.For some (and like I suggest in that can be accomplished through the development of a friendship, but it eventually requires the next step in the form of an actual date. Don’t take it too lightly: I know it sounds like I’m about to contradict myself, but bear with me.Contrary to popular belief, you don’t actually have to know if they’re “the one” before committing to dinner and a movie. I hold firm to the fact that you don’t need a commitment toward marriage from date number 1, but I also believe that you should do yourself a favor by not taking dating too lightly, either.When it comes to dating, it would do us well to see it as an avenue toward getting to know God’s people as we pursue God’s big picture for our lives.

So, I want to throw some thoughts and observations out there that I’ve found helpful in simplifying this topic and how to approach it as a Christian. And please…don’t find any assurance in the fact that this article starts with the number 7 (for you super-Christians out there, you know that the number 7 symbolizes perfection or completion in Scripture). The word Christian is not an adjective used to describe media, or clothing, or music- it’s a group of people.That was pretty much a coincidence, and holds no value to the credibility of this post. People who are committed to living a life that is infused with God’s love. The “Christian culture” has done quite a number on this topic, hasn’t it? We’ve added a ton of rules, and sprinkled them with even more rules. Trust me, there was time in my life when I was just as confused as anyone else (confused…and maybe even borderline relationship-cray-cray). And so I empathize with you, because part of the problem has nothing to do with you- and everything to do with the culture we’ve created around dating and relationships in general. As a relationship therapist, I’ve been immersed in the world of relationships over the past few years. Remember that there is no such thing as “Christian dating”, only Christians who date: One of the most confusing things we can do for ourselves is to categorize things by the Christian subtitle.

So, I want to throw some thoughts and observations out there that I’ve found helpful in simplifying this topic and how to approach it as a Christian. And please…don’t find any assurance in the fact that this article starts with the number 7 (for you super-Christians out there, you know that the number 7 symbolizes perfection or completion in Scripture). The word Christian is not an adjective used to describe media, or clothing, or music- it’s a group of people.That was pretty much a coincidence, and holds no value to the credibility of this post. People who are committed to living a life that is infused with God’s love. The “Christian culture” has done quite a number on this topic, hasn’t it? We’ve added a ton of rules, and sprinkled them with even more rules. Trust me, there was time in my life when I was just as confused as anyone else (confused…and maybe even borderline relationship-cray-cray). And so I empathize with you, because part of the problem has nothing to do with you- and everything to do with the culture we’ve created around dating and relationships in general. As a relationship therapist, I’ve been immersed in the world of relationships over the past few years. Remember that there is no such thing as “Christian dating”, only Christians who date: One of the most confusing things we can do for ourselves is to categorize things by the Christian subtitle. You flood my inbox every day with a list of your seriously legitimate (well…mostly) questions. And we’ve taken all the fun out of it…but most of all, we’ve take God out of it, too.