Break dating patterns

04-Jan-2016 20:02

While many people have a ‘type’, it is when you get stuck in a negative dating cycle that it maybe be time to re-examine your relationships.

Here are a few of the questions you should be asking yourself if you find yourself in yet another failed relationship or dating disaster.

After all, when you are looking for your dream job, you have to go on a lot of interviews until you find the right fit.

Finding a permanent partner should take no less effort. Throw yourself into your passion and your chances of meeting a like-minded individual increase.

Related: 3 Clues You’re Dating a Keeper Breaking a behavior pattern is never easy, especially when it comes to dating.

Perhaps the first and most important step to take is to be honest with yourself.

He talked about how we humans tend to repeat the same patterns of behavior in our lives over and over.

He called this propensity ‘repetition repulsion.’ While he didn’t apply this label to dating, in particular, it is clear why it so obviously applies.

Another important point is that you not get stuck feeling bad about yourself. Finding a significant other can be quite a challenge.It’s kind of like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole; you may make it work but it will never be quite right. Love may indeed be right around the corner, across the street or, sometimes, it is actually right in front of you.Once you have a clearer understanding of what you are looking for it is a lot easier to see.It is not uncommon to hear people say that it was at the very point when they stopped looking so hard that they found their true love. When you are so invested in finding ‘the one’ you may actually be working too hard to make a perfect match. If you have always had a particular interest or activity you wanted to pursue when you are single it is much easier to go for it. Once you break your own repetition repulsion, however, you may just find who you are looking for.Translation: you may be trying to make a bad fit a good one by ignoring red flags. That’s because of your healthy energy radiating from the inside out. The funniest thing about that is that you often don’t need to go too far.

Another important point is that you not get stuck feeling bad about yourself. Finding a significant other can be quite a challenge.It’s kind of like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole; you may make it work but it will never be quite right. Love may indeed be right around the corner, across the street or, sometimes, it is actually right in front of you.Once you have a clearer understanding of what you are looking for it is a lot easier to see.It is not uncommon to hear people say that it was at the very point when they stopped looking so hard that they found their true love. When you are so invested in finding ‘the one’ you may actually be working too hard to make a perfect match. If you have always had a particular interest or activity you wanted to pursue when you are single it is much easier to go for it. Once you break your own repetition repulsion, however, you may just find who you are looking for.Translation: you may be trying to make a bad fit a good one by ignoring red flags. That’s because of your healthy energy radiating from the inside out. The funniest thing about that is that you often don’t need to go too far. I have been picking and dating men who are not available – emotionally or legally. I recognize it but I can’t figure out how to fix it. I’ve dated 2 men who were separated and I wasn’t sure if it was a pattern. It’s different when you know them in real life through social groups like meetup (where I met my ex).